When The Best Friend Is Of The Opposite Sex

When we say opposites attract we can’t only refer to our significant other, but we have to address the best friend category too. Many people have best friends that are of the opposite sex and they wouldn’t trade that friendship for nothing in the world. But can men and women be friends or best friends and not cross the line? It’s great if you can be just friends, because that is like having insight into the psyche of the opposite sex right at your finger tips.

Having many conversations over the years with people who have best friends of the opposite sex, I have found that it is someone that they grew up with and went to school together. It was that one conversation that started it all and they clicked and the friendship blossomed from there. It isn’t about having a crush on that person or wishing the two of you could be an item, it’s about being able to be yourself around that person. Nothing is superficial about it when you are best friends with the opposite sex. There is no competitiveness, because the friendship is real, it is relaxing and major fun.

When asked if they would give up that friend of the opposite sex when they enter into a serious relationship, the answer was absolutely not. And I am not surprised by this answer, because people come and go. People break up all the time, but that best friend will always be there even the ones of the opposite sex.
Does the significant other have to be secure to accept the fact that their partner’s best friend is of the opposite sex? Yes, they have to be secure, but their partner has to be willing to introduce them to each other and maybe do things together in a group from time to time. If you cannot or will not introduce them to your girlfriend, boyfriend, or spouse, you might want to do a self check and re-examine the nature of the relationship with everyone involved. What is there to hide if everything is what you claim it to be?

It is probably harder for a man to accept that his woman has a best friend of the opposite sex than it is for a woman to accept her man having another woman as his best friend. If this is a hard thing to accept, then this might be a question to ask at the beginning of the relationship. If they say that their best friend is of the opposite sex, you might want to get to know them, because come hell or high water they will be there, whether you go or stay.

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