Everybody has baggage, some have more than others and others have just enough. But why is it we tend to meet people that have a lot more baggage than we could ever think to be burden with. The stuff from their past is weighing them down and worse yet they want to drop it all on you. Hold up, now there are two people weighed down to the point of being fed up and tired, emotions out of control and in a whirlwind to the point of anger, hostility, and unhappiness, all the things that keep you from moving forward.
I don’t think it’s rude to find out how much baggage a person has or plans on bringing into a relationship or friendship, its important information to have and it’s your right to find out. Find out how much time and energy their baggage is going to require. Is it something that can be resolved quickly or is it something that could hinder growth and stall your own goals?
Don’t take their baggage lightly, ask questions and look for the red flags and don’t rush into anything. Be careful because some people are good at hiding their baggage and bringing out a little at a time. No one is perfect, but you don’t have to be the person to always carry the extra load and carry it too long. Extra drama you don’t need. Peace of mind you do.
Work on unloading as much of your own baggage as you can, so when you meet someone your baggage is light weight and manageable.