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10 Types of Women That Men Do Not Want to Marry …

By Samantha Daniels

10 Types of Women That Men Do Not Want to Marry

(Originally appeared on The Huffington Post on April 15, 2013.)

I recently wrote an article here on Huffington Post Women entitled 10 Types of Men Who Won’t Marry You and in response to it, I have gotten over 1,000 comments as well as endless emails asking me why I hadn’t written a similar list of types of women. As a result, I have created such a list here, using the opinions that I have heard from tens of thousands of men during my years working as a matchmaker. The fact is, if you are a woman and you want to get married, you need to be smart about your dating. This means avoiding certain male types, but it also means recognizing what you are doing wrong in your dating and whether the type of woman you are putting out there to the male population attracts or repels them. To figure this out, you can start by considering the list below and whether you, at times, are any of these quite unattractive female types:

Miss “Bossy Pants”: This woman usually can’t help herself; she has bossy in her DNA. When a man first meets her, he might think this character trait is cute, for awhile. However, once he starts to feel like he is in grammar school being told what to do by his second grade teacher, he will give this woman her walking papers.

Miss “Playing Games With His Heart”: This woman thinks that being a game player will help herland a man. However, even though a man might be intrigued by a hard to get lady in the beginning, as soon as he decides that he is interested in her, all he wants is an honest straightshooter. If this woman doesn’t remove Battleship from her repertoire quite quickly, she will be shown the door before she can evensink his vessel.

Miss “I Want To Change You”: This woman is lurking everywhere. She is the type of woman many men are the most leery of. (Of course, there are some men who love this woman because of their own insecurities.) She claims that she loves her guy just the way he is, but little by little, she chips away at just about everything about him. First, it’s his wardrobe, then it’s his taste in music. However, when she gets to his friends and his hobbies, she is usually kicked to the curb.

Miss “Suspiciously Jealous”: This woman is on edge all the time because she is very distrusting. Many times, she has been burnt in the past, so she is on guard for anything that looks or feels wrong. When a man first meets this woman, he sees her as a damsel in distress and wants to reassure her that he is nothing like that guy in her past. However, once she accuses him one too many times, he will have no choice to leave her because he can’t go through his life being prosecuted for somebody else’s crimes.

Miss “I Live For You And I Have Nothing Else Going On”: This woman is very difficult for a man to date, let alone marry. At first, he is flattered that she is so into him, but very quickly, he feels overwhelmed and suffocated by her. As a woman, you must have something going on in your own life so that you are not just waiting by the door for him to come home.

Miss “I Have Daddy Issues”: This woman usually dates older men and deep down is looking for a father figure, not a boyfriend or husband. Initially, her guy might like how she looks to him for approval and the answer to all of her questions, but soon, he realizes that he wants to have sex with a real woman, not someone who is stuck in her teen years trying to get Daddy to notice her.

Miss “I Speak To My Mother Five Times A Day About Everything”: This woman has her mother on speed dial and can’t seem to make a decision or do anything without getting her opinion. When a guy first meets her, he thinks it’s nice that she is so close to her family, but soon, he finds it to be way too much. A man just doesn’t want to have to ask her mother’s permission about things in his life.

Miss “Shhh, I Shouldn’t Really Be Saying This, But…”: This woman is like a human Page Six. She loves to gossip and talk about other people and she loves to hear things about other people as well. Initially when a guy meets her, he might be entertained by her anecdotes but eventually, he begins to wonder what she is saying behind his back.

Miss “Keeping Up With The Joneses”: This woman needs to be at least as good as everyone else she knows. She is constantly talking about what the other people do and what the other people have. This places a lot of undue pressure on her guy and eventually, he justs gets fed up that she can’t appreciate what they have instead of wishing she was someone else.

Miss “I Don’t Eat”: This woman picks at her food, is on a never-ending diet or doesn’t eat pretty much everything that most people eat. When a man first meets her, he thinks to himself, at least she will never become overweight, but eventually he realizes that it’s no fun to eat alone. The fact is men like to eat; they like steak, they like trying different foods, they like dessert and women should be eating too, at least sometimes.

Keep in mind that most men just want a happy and easy going woman who has good values, so just focus on putting the best YOU out there.

Can you think of any other types of women that are unattractive to men?

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Getting the Man That Is On Your Radar

To Get the Guy You Want
1. Be approachable, likeable and smile.
2. Always be yourself, don’t be fake and let him see the real you at all times.
3. Don’t talk about your ex. good or bad it might sound like you are not really over him.
4. Don’t ask him about marriage, you don’t want to scare him off.
5. Love the game, football, basketball, golf, etc. a girl who likes sports and can talk about sports, he will think he hit the jackpot!
6. Have fun; know how to have fun with and without him. This will show him that you are not clingy and you have a life of your own.
7. Give him space and understand that men will be men. He is going to hang out with the fellas, so don’t be mad, it is a waste of time.

How To Keep Your Guy
1. Don’t nag.
2. Ask about his mother. Get along with his mother.
3. Cook his favorite meals.
4. Surprise him with tickets to a game to watch his favorite pro team.
5. Sex! Sex! Sex! Different positions and different locations. Ladies that includes oral sex too.
6. Keep doing the seven tips listed in “To Get the Guy You Want.”

He Loves You, but He Likes Her, Her, and Her: Why You Are Not the Only One

Men are a different species for sure. What do men want, really? What do they like? The answer is women and every now and then it’s more than one woman at one time. I don’t think men set out to hurt women, but there are so many women to choose from. They have more to choose from because as we all know there are more women than there are men and that adds up to more choices. Out of all the selections that men get to make in their lives this one offers the biggest selection.

The dilemma being that so many women catch their eye and temptation is all around them. Some men do want commitment, but what happens when he begins to like someone else? Is the love for you strong enough that he will not stray and feed the “I like her” curiosity? Women I encourage you to talk to some of your male friends and find out what makes them tick. I have talked to some, and one of the reasons men stray is because of this one thing; they like variety. They want something different; they don’t want to lose you, they just want something different sometimes.

Ladies, I am not saying that this is okay or saying that you should accept this, I just want to bring more awareness to something that is a big issue for a lot of women and provide at least one answer to why you are not the only one. If you know of other reasons please share.

Some men are faithful and there are many men that are not faithful. For those of you living with or married to a faithful man count it a blessing and for everyone else trying and hoping he will change, I guess you have some decisions to make.

You Love Him, But He Doesn’t Love You

I love you and you wait for him to say the words “I love you too”, but you get silence or a change in conversation. That’s a big red flag that he doesn’t love you, not right now and maybe never. The question is do you accept the relationship as is or move on?

Well, before you move on ask the question how did the relationship start out? Were you friends first or was it sexual fireworks to the 10th degree? The answer could determine where the relationship might be headed.

If you want him to love you, do not pressure him and do not be the first to say I love you. Men “like” and women “love”, and women fall fast and hard when they think they are in love. Slow down ladies, put the brakes on your emotions and enjoy the ride, and eventually he might just coast right into your arms and whisper I love you, but more importantly be in love with you.

She Thinks She Is All That

The stuff we say about other women is downright wrong. The whispers, the stares, the name calling and back stabbing, reveal insecurity and jealousy that is completely insane. What is the problem with women? What is it about belittling each other that brings great pleasure? Why do we have clicks, when we should have a class of women being the guiding force behind the next generation of girls?

When women say “she thinks she is all that”, it’s not an accurate statement or observation. The truth is the woman saying those words is the one thinking that, not the one being ridiculed. No one knows what she is thinking. She may be thinking about her children, career, mortgage, bills, school, husband, boyfriend, her parents or what book she is going to read next. So, unless we are willing to converse with her and get to know where she is coming from and what makes her the woman she is today, then we should not assume that conceit is on her mind.

The tongue must be tamed, because we use it more often for negativity, than to lift up the sisterhood. Women are strong and intelligent, but the issue is some women think that strength and intelligence is only for them.

Come on ladies, is she really a “bitch”? I doubt it very seriously. Are you a “bitch”? I doubt that very seriously as well.

Women complain about men being interested only in their physical bodies and not their intellect. When men see the physical; a woman with a nice body, they think of beauty and sex. When women see the physical; a woman with a nice body, they despise her. Who is right? Who is wrong?

Look past the physical and stop trying to make your thoughts the thoughts of the woman you are hatin’ on. How do women look at other women and decide just by looking at them that they are not going t like them? Look in the mirror, and find out who is the real problem.

Women stop disrespecting one another. If you don’t want a man calling you a “bitch” then why do you do it to other women? Then we wonder why our young girls are slandering other young girls. What are you showing them in your actions and speech? Calling a women by a name other than the name she was given at birth, says a lot about the character of the woman spewing out the hateful words.

I love men, because the jealousy and craziness is not on their radar. Give men the triple pack: sex, sports, and good cooking and they are good. NO DRAMA.

A woman who is confident, knows what she wants, knows what she will and will not accept, educated, self sufficient, career oriented, taking great pride in her health and how she looks and handles her business, is a woman worth knowing. She is focused, she has paid her dues, and she is a woman creating a path for other women. She has earned respect, because she gives respect.

Women get it together and support one another. If you think she is all that, then tell her she is ALL THAT and fabulous too!!

Tell the Truth…It’s a Physical Attraction

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It doesn’t matter what spin you put on it, when we first meet someone, it is a physical attraction. Confess it now, that this is the absolute truth. I don’t know who made up the line “I want to get to know you better”, but the translation for this statement is, I like what I see and I want to touch you.

The physical attraction is not only on the part of men, its women too. I have been in conversations with women, about some of their first encounters with men they just met. The fact is, both sexes are in the same boat, it’s a physical attraction at first sight pure and simple.

Imagine walking up to someone and saying can I hold you? Can I kiss you? Can I come over to your place or would you like to come over to mine? Stay the night with me; can I make love to you? No, we can’t be that extreme, there are formalities, because it’s the right thing to do and we don’t want to offend or upset anyone, right? Respect is the name of the game…to get respect you have to give respect.

I say we put all of our cards on the table, and be honest and save people time, heartache, and some cash too.

Let people know up front what you want from them. It would go something like this: Excuse me; I want you for one night. Well, hearing that, at least you would know where you stand, and you don’t have to guess if they really like you or your body. It’s pretty evident that it’s your body.

Break ups and broken hearts would be less heard of, skipping unnecessary relationships; having more of the famous one night stands, and then keep it moving. Now that I said that, I have to give out a courtesy PSA: Cherish what is yours and always use protection, but if you really want to do the right thing, save yourself for marriage, the latter is highly recommended.

It seems like it would be welcoming to hear someone tell the truth, to say flat out that it is just a physical attraction that they have for you. They could also say, this is a rebound, so don’t read more into it than what it is. No, I don’t want to marry you. I don’t want to be your girlfriend or boyfriend, whatever the case may be. I don’t want to get that deep, but what I do want, is to enjoy you for a night, maybe two, and please don’t be mad, be happy I’m telling you the truth.

But can we handle the truth? I’m not so sure, but we need to try, because the lies we tell when we first meet people has caused years of misery and time they can’t get back.

When The Best Friend Is Of The Opposite Sex

When we say opposites attract we can’t only refer to our significant other, but we have to address the best friend category too. Many people have best friends that are of the opposite sex and they wouldn’t trade that friendship for nothing in the world. But can men and women be friends or best friends and not cross the line? It’s great if you can be just friends, because that is like having insight into the psyche of the opposite sex right at your finger tips.

Having many conversations over the years with people who have best friends of the opposite sex, I have found that it is someone that they grew up with and went to school together. It was that one conversation that started it all and they clicked and the friendship blossomed from there. It isn’t about having a crush on that person or wishing the two of you could be an item, it’s about being able to be yourself around that person. Nothing is superficial about it when you are best friends with the opposite sex. There is no competitiveness, because the friendship is real, it is relaxing and major fun.

When asked if they would give up that friend of the opposite sex when they enter into a serious relationship, the answer was absolutely not. And I am not surprised by this answer, because people come and go. People break up all the time, but that best friend will always be there even the ones of the opposite sex.
Does the significant other have to be secure to accept the fact that their partner’s best friend is of the opposite sex? Yes, they have to be secure, but their partner has to be willing to introduce them to each other and maybe do things together in a group from time to time. If you cannot or will not introduce them to your girlfriend, boyfriend, or spouse, you might want to do a self check and re-examine the nature of the relationship with everyone involved. What is there to hide if everything is what you claim it to be?

It is probably harder for a man to accept that his woman has a best friend of the opposite sex than it is for a woman to accept her man having another woman as his best friend. If this is a hard thing to accept, then this might be a question to ask at the beginning of the relationship. If they say that their best friend is of the opposite sex, you might want to get to know them, because come hell or high water they will be there, whether you go or stay.